Essays & Posts

They told me they fixed it…I trusted them to fix it… It's not my fault!

We used to have some universal truths we could all get behind. But then we discovered that "universal" wasn't quite that. It was more "majority" and many of those "truths" became obstacles impeding our growth. To understand what was happening, we began to look a little closer at these truths.

In order to explain how something works or why something isn't functioning at 100%, we need to take it apart. Imagine someone gives you a fully built Millennium Falcon lego model made out of 7,541 tiny pieces. But they didn't give you the instructions, or even the box. It's a beautiful design. But, being the Star Wars nerd that you are, you know it could be better. The more you spend time with it, studying it, you realize it's missing some things. Some things aren't quite accurate and something's rattling inside. You can't let this be. What would Han and Chewie do? So you start to take it apart so you can fix it. At first, you methodically lay down each piece in order and in groups, but soon enough it becomes overwhelming and now there are pieces everywhere.

The truth as we knew it didn’t fit our complex and fluid life any more and so we began to examine things to better discern why. We started examining this and that, piece by piece, deconstructing it to see where we could make adjustments to make things run smoother, more fair.

But we were too zealous in taking it all apart, we couldn't stop. In the end, the parts just ended up all over the place. We have no idea how to rebuild exactly what we had, nor do we want to. But we have no plan for what we could build in its place. We just left the pieces strewn across the floor where we keep stepping on them. The sharp corners digging into the soft, sensitive underbelly of our feet. Even so, gritting our teeth in pain, nobody wants to pick them up. Nobody knows how to put it back together. Nobody knows what to put back together.

The prior instructions reflect a project that no longer exists. They show how to build something that no longer works for us. That doesn't mean we can't build something new, something better that INCLUDES the best of the old project while also reflecting what we learned while taking it apart. In the process of dismantling, we saw how the parts were put together in the first place. We recognized that there were shaky sections that wouldn't allow us to build any higher. And we could admit that there were also some amazing and necessary portions that give it it's Millennium-Falcon-ness. These old pieces are necessary and need to be incorporated into our new and more kick-ass Millennium Falcon.